There’s a certain level of comfort that you have to be able to reach with your partner before either of you decide to tie the knot with one another. It’s only normal. Your relationship is composed of a series of stages and tests that you both have to go through together. These stages are going to prepare you and your partner for tests in the future. And the deeper you get in the relationship, the stronger you become – but also, the more difficult the problems of your relationship are going to be.
One of the most important tests in a relationship is the test of comfort that the two of you have with one another. Yes, relationships are a struggle. They are always going to require a lot of hard work. And that’s why it’s very important that you establish a rapport with one another that doesn’t add to that struggle; that doesn’t make things more complicated than it has to be. And when you actually have that level of comfort with each other, you’re both going to feel like you will be able to conquer whatever challenge your relationship might face.
Sometimes, you’re going to have to learn to be comfortable with things that your partner does which you would never be okay with other people doing – and vice versa. Unless your partner has seen these less-than-perfect sides of you, then you really can’t be thinking about marriage yet. Your partner has to express a certain comfort (or at least a tolerance) for the worst parts of your personality. Some of these are pretty serious, and some of these can be quite silly as well. Don’t marry him unless you’ve done these 8 things in front of him.
1. Have a really ugly cry.
It’s important that he is able to see you ugly cry at least once for a number of reasons. For one, you’re going to be able to gauge how he’s going to take care of you when your sadness is going to drive you into hysterics. It’s a way of testing his empathy and support. Another reason is that if he sees you ugly cry, and he still loves you despite how you look, then you definitely know that that love is for real.
2. Go off the rails with your anger.
You can’t ALWAYS let your anger get the best of you. But it’s best that you do so at least once and see if he’s still going to be willing to stick around after that. If he is, then you definitely know that that’s true love.
3. Go grocery shopping together.
Is he going to be able to tolerate your very slow and meticulous process of going about grocery shopping? Remember, this is something that the two of you are probably going to have to do together for the rest of your lives if you’re going to get married.
4. Have a serious vomit.
Vomiting is gross. There’s really no sugarcoating it. Whenever you vomit, you can bet that that isn’t going to be most flattering image of yourself. And so if he sees you vomit, and he still wants to love you and take care of you, then that’s always a good sign. You can get as drunk or as sick as you want; he’s always going to tolerate your gross emissions of stomach fluids.
5. Pee or fart in front of him.
These are perfectly natural bodily processes – but they are also pretty gross. Usually, you would want to do these things in private. Or at the very least, when you fart, you want to make sure that it’s a silent one so that people wouldn’t know that it was you. But when you’re really deep into the relationship, it might be okay to start doing these things in front of one another. There shouldn’t really be that much to hide anymore.
6. Poop in front of him.
This is essentially a lot like the previous entry – except you’re just taking things a step further. And that’s a pretty significant step. That’s a level of grossness that not many couples are able to tolerate in one another.
7. Have him witness a bloody napkin or tampon.
Menstruation isn’t necessarily something that a lot of men are going to be able to understand well or be comfortable with. So naturally, if your guy expresses a healthy tolerance with you on this matter, then he’s definitely reached a level of comfort with you that he hasn’t reached with many other women. This isn’t something that grosses him out as much as you would think.
8. Perform your most secret guilty pleasure.
You probably have a secret guilty pleasure that NO ONE else knows about – and you should be able to do it in front of him. You should let him in. You should expose yourself in that regard. He’s your man and he has to know everything about you if you’re going to get into a relationship together.