Hey, girl. If you don’t know it already, then you’re in for a very rude awakening. Love isn’t always going to give you the perfect story that you want it to give you. It’s never going to be like you see on the movies. It’s never going to be like you read in books.
And you’re just going to have to be content with that fact. Yes, you should have your expectations going into love – but you also have to expect that your expectations aren’t always going to be met. And that’s just the true nature of love. It’s imperfect and you have to make do with the imperfections that it brings.
Yes, love is magical. It has its moments. It can be the single greatest thing that you could possible experience in this life. But just because love is amazing doesn’t mean that it’s not going to bring you a fair amount of hardships and difficulties as well.
You could meet a guy that you become interested him; and he can seem infinitely amazing at first. He will do his part in trying to woo you. He will do his best to gain your trust. And if everything just clicks, then you fall in love with him. You meet him and you fall in love with him. And sometimes, that love can go awry.
Sometimes, the people we fall in love with don’t always turn out to be the people we think they are. We can fall in love with someone and they can turn into someone else entirely the deeper that we get into the relationship.
Sometimes, the guy who has led you to believe that he is a completely upright and committed guy turns out to be a player. And unfortunately, it’s you who he’s playing with.
And you don’t want that for yourself. You don’t deserve it. You deserve to be treated with love and care. You deserve to be appreciated and valued. So you always have to make it a point to fight for what you deserve. If you know that your guy is a player, then dump him.
But how do you know that he’s a player for sure? Well, here are a few signs that you can be on the lookout for:
1. He nags on you because it’s his idea of fun.
He acts like he’s only joking around with you when he insults and teases you; but the truth is that he’s doing so to actually destroy your spirit. He wants you to feel bad about who you are. He wants you to feel like you’re not good enough for him.
2. He acts dismissive and disinterested in your opinions.
He doesn’t really love you. He’s only playing you. He doesn’t really invest himself in getting to know you better or hearing you out. He is selfish and he doesn’t care about you as much as he cares about himself.
3. You can tell that the sweet stuff he tells you are rehearsed lines.
Yes, he can deliver a great line. But that’s the thing. He does it too well. You can really tell that he’s told these lines to girls before – and you’re probably not the last he’s going to be telling them to.
4. He doesn’t give you the freedom that you’re entitled to in the relationship.
He knows what he does with the freedom that you give him is something that you wouldn’t be happy with. And so he makes sure to never give you that kind of freedom either.
5. He is never emotionally open to you.
He always seems so closed off and unavailable to you. He never makes it seem like you can open up to him about anything. He makes you feel like he’s going to judge whatever you have to say.
6. He doesn’t respond to refusals and disagreements well.
He hates criticism. That means he doesn’t love you enough to actually be open-minded to you. He doesn’t really give much importance to your opinions if they don’t match his own.
7. He pressures you into doing things that you’re not comfortable with doing.
He doesn’t really give a damn about your feelings. He doesn’t care about making you feel comfortable. He’s only concerned with what we can get out of you and the relationship. He’s only interested in his personal gains.
8. He never makes you feel like you can trust him.
You can never really rely on him – and it’s because he designed it to be that way. He doesn’t want to feel like he owes you anything. He doesn’t want to be responsible for you. he doesn’t want you to be dependent on him.
9. He has tendencies of getting aggressive and violent.
He is controlling. And when he feels like he’s losing control of you and the relationship, then he acts out. He gets aggressive. He gets violent. And that’s definitely a bad sign. He doesn’t love you. He thinks he owns you.