There are many signs that can indicate a person has issues with self-esteem. Many of them have already been discussed by psychologists and are still being examined carefully. However, those not connected with science also have their own understanding of self-esteem and the signs that show a person should reconsider the way they behave.
We at Bright Side came across a Reddit thread where people shared their own red flags that scream a person has low self-confidence. So we chose the most popular ones for you. Make sure to read the bonus at the end — it will inspire you to do more good, for sure.
Thinking that everything bad someone tells you is true, but the second someone compliments you, you just can’t seem to accept it. © PansPersonCrazy / Reddit
On a similar note: You are able to point out what you need to work on/your weaknesses during your review with your employer, but you can’t name a single strength of yours. My boss said that I must be able to name at least one thing that I think I’m strong at, and I drew a blank. Luckily my old boss (who was now his boss) was able to rattle off a few, but the entire time I’m like (nope, that doesn’t apply to me). © ExcellentPreference8 / Reddit
Assuming that you’re always on the cusp of annoying everyone you’re with or that you’re never actually part of the group and only invited out of pity. © cyo85 / Reddit
Somebody who apologizes frequently, even for things that aren’t their fault. I’ve apologized to inanimate objects before. © Ermaquillz / Reddit
People who brag about themselves all the time. So darn insecure and trying to tell people how to see them. © Kir-ius / Reddit
15+ Red Flags That Scream a Person Has Low Self-Esteem
Self-effacing humor is fun in small amounts, but if people are constantly making “jokes” about their own flaws, they’re probably actually internalizing a lot of it. © Notmiefault / Reddit
Someone who talks themselves down a lot. It’s a way for them to protect themselves from the insults of others. © aardbei123 / Reddit
Trying to one-up in conversations. © Transitionals / Reddit
Saying you wish you had someone else’s features. I’m pretty sure everyone’s done it, but once you keep doing it I feel like it becomes a problem. © JayIsUnemployedd / Reddit
Apologizing for talking. Apologizing for not talking. Apologizing for apologizing. Apologizing for being alive. © Ectophylla_alba / Reddit
Poor personal hygiene. It’s a very common symptom of depression and low self-worth. Of course, it can come from extenuating life circumstances, but it’s definitely a good reason to check in with someone. © Kokopelli615 / Reddit
Over-clarifying too much. People who grow up with lots of criticism and invalidation usually lack self-esteem. They often feel like they have to be super-specific to avoid more criticism or accusations of lying. © copperdomebodhi / Reddit
A complete inability to admit wrongdoing. A person like that isn’t super-confident and their ego is so fragile that they can’t handle the possibility of having been in error. © grombleduke / Reddit
Lying about their lives. There is nothing sadder than catching a person lying about their life (finances, romantic relationships, etc.) just to get attention and validation. © o_oana / Reddit
Constantly needing reassurance that your spouse loves you still. Feeling super insecure in the relationship, even after being together through thick and thin for 30 years. Breaks my heart. © Indy_Fred_Momma / Reddit
Putting down other’s hobbies because you are insecure about yours/don’t have any. © FROGS_and_PLANTS / Reddit
I cross-stitch, and some of my pieces are very intricate and take a long time. I am really proud of them, and the focus it takes to complete them.
I had a date tell me that cross-stitch was the most useless hobby he had ever heard of, and I was just flabbergasted. First off, why do hobbies have to be “useful”? Secondly, it provides me with entertainment for a long time, and it then serves as decoration! But even without all that, if I enjoy it, why try and take that away from me? © AhFFSImTooOldForThis / Reddit