Is he or isn’t he? It can be really hard to tell sometimes. When you’re in a relationship with someone, you always want to make sure that it’s real and tangible. You are so sick and tired of being in relationships that are practically glorified flings. You want something real. You want something hot and heavy. You want something serious that you can really build on for the long-term. And that’s great. But what if you’re with someone who doesn’t feel the same way? That’s when the conflict arises.
Just because you’re serious about a relationship doesn’t mean that it’s going to be enough. You’re going to need to be with a man who is going to be just as serious about the relationship as you are. Otherwise, you’re just going to end up wasting your time and you are going to feel really disappointed after. But what can you do to know for sure if a guy is going to be serious about you? How do you know if he’s just playing around or not? Well, if you see that a lot of the signs listed on here apply to your guy, then it’s likely that he’s really serious about being with you.
1. He talks about the future with you.
He really opens up about the idea of having a future with you. To him, this isn’t just some temporary fling or casual hookup. He’s really serious about making things work with you. He’s really serious about working at the longevity of your relationship.
2. He introduces you to the closest people in his life.
He wants to be able to integrate your social circles because he knows that you’re going to be a permanent fixture in his life. You aren’t a girl he’s just looking to discard anytime soon. And that’s why he wants you to meet those closest to him.
3. He stays completely open and honest to you.
He allows himself to be vulnerable with you. The proof of his seriousness lies in his openness. A guy rarely ever opens himself up to a girl. But if he’s really serious about being with you, then he wouldn’t have a problem with making himself vulnerable to gain your trust, love, and affection.
4. He always makes it his goal to make you happy and comfortable.
He’s no longer selfish. It’s not just him chasing his own personal happiness anymore. He considers your own well-being to be his utmost priority. It makes him happy to see you happy. It makes him fulfilled to see you comfortable. And that’s because he’s taken it upon himself to take care of you.
5. He makes a genuine effort to listen to you.
He never invalidates your thoughts and opinions. He never acts dismissive of the things that you want to get off your chest. He always makes a concerted effort to make you feel heard. And you can tell that he’s really paying attention because he engages with you. He really listens to whatever you might want to say.
6. He always acts respectfully towards you.
Of course, he can be just a generally respectful man. But if you notice that he always makes it a point to treat you with respect, you know that he genuinely cares about what you think of him. He’s heavily invested in your opinion of him because he wants to always leave a good impression on you.
7. He gives you open access into his digital world.
Let’s face it. These days, it’s a big deal when we give other people open access to our digital worlds. And if he’s giving you free reign over his cellphones and communication devices, he’s essentially telling you that he has nothing to hide anymore. To you, his life is an open book. And he really trusts you with it.
8. He lets you have a key to his place/He asks to move in together.
It’s no longer a question of just spending casual time with one another anymore. He wants to really share his life with you. He wants you to feel welcome into his world because he’s really serious about wanting a shared future with you at his side.
9. He moves his schedule around just to accommodate you.
Time is the single most valuable thing we have in our lives as human beings. And if he’s willing to share a substantial bulk of his time with you, then you know that he isn’t just playing around with you. He’s the real deal and he isn’t afraid of prioritizing you above other things.
10. He tells you that he loves you.
And at the end of the day, you can believe him or you won’t; but if a guy tells you that he loves you, and you know that he’s serious about it, that’s all you really need. And it shouldn’t be enough that he tells you about his feelings. He should be able to back them up with real actions and gestures as well.